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If you feel overwhelmed by the thought of doing anything but screen time and Lunchables for the next couple of weeks, no judgement here. We all deal with stress and crises differently. Some people panic at the thought of implementing any kind of structure or they simply feel it isn't necessary. That's a valid response, and you probably don't want to continue reading.
But some people need some kind of structure in order to thrive. (It's me. I'm some people.) It doesn't have to be a rigid schedule, nor does it have to be the same as anyone else's, but for me, chaos makes me panic. I need a plan. And I've seen lots of posts asking for help and ideas, so I thought I could share what works for me. This isn't my attempt to force anything on anyone else or make quarantine "Pinterest-worthy." I'm just offering what I have to anyone who might be interested. Take it as it is.
So you want to set up some kind of routine or schedule or at least plan some activities to pull out when the kids get restless? Let's start with a couple of mindset adjustments that will help for the long haul.
- Expect more mess. It's gonna happen. Whatever your tolerance level for mess is, having kids home all day, every day is gonna push those limits. Take a minute before you do any planning to try to address this so it doesn't drive you crazy and inhibit the rest of your plans. What are the definite boundaries (like, no art on the couches, or no food on the carpet, etc.)? What are the areas where you can give a little (like letting some sensory filler spill on the kitchen floor), and how can you incorporate cleaning breaks into your day so that you don't feel overwhelmed by 6:00?
- Try to stretch the times. For little ones, try to stretch activities to 20 or 30 minutes. For older ones, try for 45 minutes to an hour. That means you probably won't be able to just set play dough on the table and expect them to occupy themselves for an hour. You'll have to be more involved. Help them make up games, like a play dough pie store, or print off some play dough mats. If you are constantly jumping from activity to activity every five minutes, they will be restless and you will go crazy. Pinterest is your friend here. Search "easy play dough activities" to get some good ideas.
- Use themes. Everyone who knows me knows I love a good theme. Don't try to invent twenty random activities each day. Pick a theme for the day and make the activities fit with the theme. It encourages them to combine and expand, and it makes your life easier because you will naturally start to come up with more ideas that go with the theme.
- Get outside. If at all possible, go outside every day. If it's raining but not storming, let them splash in puddles and then come in and take warm baths (fills extra time!). If it's cold, bundle them up and give them five or ten minutes to do a nature scavenger hunt. Or even just have them run out the door and do ten jumping jacks and then run back in. Fresh air is great for everyone!
- Don't expect to get a lot "done." You will not be as productive as usual. It's important to make peace with that. Constant interruptions, heightened vigilance, more mess, and constantly finding things for them to do means that you are going to look back at the end of some days and say, "Did I actually DO anything today!?" The answer is yes. You were there for your kids, and that is a full-time job. Give yourself some grace.
- Adopt an attitude of adventure. I know these are anxious times, and I know there are a lot of inconveniences and disappointments swirling around everyone, but as much as possible, approach these next few weeks with a purposeful attitude of adventure. We've never done this before. We are all in this together, including your kids. Keep a "quarantine journal" or blog or vlog. Get your kids to add to it.
We are going to get through this together, you guys. We have so many resources at our disposal. Eyes up, hearts up! You've got this.
In my next post, I'm going to go over some basic ingredients for a day, and then I'll give some easy no-prep activities for those who want to keep it super simple, and some theme day ideas for those like me who need a plan!
Let me know if you have specific questions. I'm always happy to help!
Have a reading time. Perhaps even an hour. Perhaps your children will fall in love with reading. Perhaps you can wean them off of electronics a little bit. Just a thought.
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